13 Painful Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore

You’ve got a bad feeling…

Something isn’t just right.

The guy you’re dating hasn’t been the same lately. And you’re beginning to worry. Thinking he doesn’t love you anymore – like he used to.

Obviously, some things have changed about him.

And now, you’re tone.

It’s heart-rending when it seems like your boyfriend starts to show signs he doesn’t love you anymore.

Not that he has said anything out-rightly, but it’s obvious deep within that something’s off.

His attitude has changed towards you – a lot.

And now, you’re wondering, why can’t he just end the relationship rather than dragging things on?

Truth is, breakup sucks.

Even when it’s you who want out

He may not be honestly interested in hurting your feelings, but knowing where he stands is necessary for you to make inform decision on what to do next.

After all, you understand that if you realize he doesn’t love you anymore, you’re going to have to decide and do something about it.

But it isn’t as easy as it sounds.

More often than not, I’ve observed that when we are truly attracted to and love someone, it’s very easy to ignore the glaring warning signs staring us in the eye.

Instead, we project our fantasies and how we want the relationship to be, regardless of our almost impossible chances of making it work.

Honestly, I’ve made this mistake many times in my dating life. But I finally realized that ignoring warning signs is what led me to the countless dating drama I faced.

Recognizing people’s behavior’s, for who they are, not my fantasies, saved me from girls who aren’t a good match for me.

And, it gave me the insight into what prevented me from the love I’ve always wanted.

Now, before we dive into…

What are the signs your partner doesn’t love you anymore?

It’s crucial to understand that there are signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you. At least, not anymore.

And there are also obvious signs he doesn’t love you anymore.

For example:

He starts putting less effort into the relationship.

Perhaps he no longer opens up or tells you stuff. Or he doesn’t take you out on dates as before.

Whatever your situations are, the challenge is that he’s no longer invested and put in as much energy and time as he used to when the relationship started.

And while all those are good signs he doesn’t love you anymore, it isn’t always the case. There are tons of other reasons he isn’t stepping forward as he used to.

Who knows?

It could be that he has become nonchalant or laid-back.

He could just be taking you for a ride or for granted. After all, he doesn’t see any reason to work on the relationship.

And that’s because you’re always there for him regardless of his little or no investment.

At times, what’s required for a man displaying these signs to take it up a notch is to be faced with the possible idea of you kicking him to the curb for someone else.

Other times, though, he may need some space in the relationship, which is of no consequence

If that’s true, just pull back for some time, focus on your growth and see where it leads. If he genuinely wants you, he will pursue you.

However, if he’s no longer interested, he will take the chance and disappears … for good.

The question is…

How do you know he doesn’t want to be with you anymore?

What are the signs that a man doesn’t love you?

How do you know if someone doesn’t want to be with you?

What to do when someone doesn’t want to be with you anymore?

How do you know if he doesn’t care anymore?

If you want answers to any of those, then read these 11 telltale signs he doesn’t want to be with you anymore and doesn’t love you

11 Brutally Honest Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore

1. He Seems Withdrawn

This guy used to be extremely excited about you.

He can’t wait to get home most times to share his day with you.

He willingly opens up and wants to form deep connection with you instead of keeping things on the surface level.

He often shares stories and his feelings almost about anything. But now, he seems closed off and detached.

It’s like he’s completely shut down. And almost impossible to reach him – no matter how much you try.

Well, these could be signs he doesn’t love you anymore and wants the relationship to end.

And like I previously mentioned, it could be that he’s going through a phase in his life. And it has nothing whatsoever to do with the relationship or even you.

Men pull away for many reasons.

He may be going through some internal or even external struggles that have preoccupied him and has his mind engaged.

You know how men often withdraw and need space to solve pressing problems.

And that’s normal.

Regardless, if this lingers to the extent where he doesn’t even communicate with you anymore, that’s not normal.

It’s one of the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you anymore.

2. He Takes Forever To Message You Back

The start of every relationship is pretty intense.

Emotions are usually very high.

There’s a lot of chatting and messaging. And calls, too.

You can’t wait to go out on dates with him. You just want to see him every time.

He wants to hear your nice voice before he hits the bed at night. And when it’s dawn, he wants to know how splendid your night was.

Same with you

But after a while, as the relationship progresses, you both begin to settle in.

it’s no surprise that the initial passion and ferocity of feelings would dwindle and the calling and chatting would slowly decrease.

This is expected.

However, if he frequently disappears on you for days or weeks and always gets offended at you for calling him out, then it’s obvious he disappeared on purpose.

Not only that, it’s a signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you anymore

Someone who really loves you can’t keep ghosting and reappearing from time to time.

3. He Doesn’t Tell You He Loves You

Your boyfriend used to smother you with statements like, “I love you.” “You’re the best thing that has ever happened to me.” “I’m so lucky you’re in my life.” Etc.

But now, it’s as if you’re a total stranger to him.

He doesn’t say those things anymore.

Well, if you’ve been wondering “does he still love me?” lately, it isn’t a good signs for the relationship. It could be signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you anymore.

You see, when a guy is in love, he makes it obvious. He just can’t help it.

He’s enthusiastic about you and the relationship. And he wants you to know how he feels about you.

In fact, he looks for every opportunity to tell you he loves you.

Granted.

He may not go to CNN or climb Mount Everest to profess how much he loves you, but he’ll let you know that he loves you without any ambiguity.

So, If your boyfriend isn’t showing that he loves you like he used to and has even stopped saying he loves you, it might mean that he doesn’t.

4. He Just Doesn’t Make Time For You As Before

This is one of the obvious signs he doesn’t love you anymore.

At the beginning, he just can’t get enough of you.

“How can I see you?” “When are we meeting again?” “I’d love to take you out this weekend.” “I know we went out yesterday. Can we see again tomorrow?”

Those used to be his usual lines…

He used to be eager to want to see you and spend time with you. Your presence used to delight him.

But now, your presence irritates him.

When your boyfriend no longer prioritizes you, it could be signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you anymore.

Yeah, he might be busy, though.

But if he really loves you, he would prioritize you. He’d want to create and spend quality time with you regardless of how hectic his schedules are.

After all, every one of us makes out time for the things we love.

It isn’t that he’s so busy. It’s just that you aren’t his top priority anymore.

Saying he’s busy is an escapism tactic. Probably he doesn’t want to face the truth about your relationship.

He just doesn’t want to deal with the drama. So, he avoids everything: you and the reality.

If he declines one or two dates on the ground that he’s tired or has prior commitments, that’s justified.

However, when he gives excuses every time, and doesn’t bother to reschedule, he most likely doesn’t want to see you.

That’s one of the signs a relationship is coming to an end.

5. Almost Everything You Do Annoys Him

Your silly jokes used to make him laugh.

You make fun of each other. And also discuss seemingly unrelated life’s topics and everything in between.

But the jokes that used to make him laugh now irritate him.

Simple questions irritate him, prompting him to respond harshly or not at all.

You used to cuddle up to him while watching a movie, but now it makes him hot, itchy, or uncomfortable. And it appears that he is irritated by everything you do.

It is not that far-fetched, after all.

That is a clear indication that he no longer loves you and wishes to end things.

Isn’t a healthy relationship measured by how good you feel with your partner right now?

And, while it’s tempting to focus on how great the relationship was in the past and try to recapture what you both had, only how you both feel now matters.

So, if he used to be fun and easygoing, but now he seems annoyed and frustrated with you all of the time, and he gets angry for no reason, that’s a huge sign he doesn’t love you anymore.

Take it as a sign that he no longer wants to be with you and therefore wants out.

Of course, this could just be a phase.

Your boyfriend could be having a difficult time right now.

It’s possible that he’s going through a particularly trying time at work. Alternatively, he may be uninspired.

These difficulties may cause him to be a little more testy than usual.

But, if you can’t think of anything that could be bothering him right now,

And he doesn’t seem to snap out of it and keeps getting annoyed at you, take it as a sign that he might be reconsidering your relationship.

It could be signs that he no longer loves you (or wants you either)

6. He Doesn’t Care About Your Needs

What is love without caring?

Your boyfriend used to be very mindful of your needs, but this time, he only cares about himself.

He only wants to unwind with his buddy.

Plus, he doesn’t want to be there for you when you need him the most.

Now, you’re asking “Is the relationship ending?”

Well, these are all signs he wants to end the relationship. Or, he’s just testing your limits or taking you for a ride.

Whatever the specifics are, know that when a man stops investing into a relationship, it could make any woman go crazy, pinning for what used to be.

It’s crucial you define your vision in a relationship: your goals from the start and have adequate self-respect and confidence to walk away…

Never accept anything less than you deserve – without blaming him for it. Or, let anyone make you feel guilty for your choice.

If he’s taking you for a ride and no longer appreciates you, take a step back to pay more attention to yourself.

Focusing on your overall growth and well-being might encourage him to see the value in you.

However, if he doesn’t show interest in putting more effort into you and the relationship,

after you’ve called him out and bring his attention to the fact that your needs are being neglected, that’s a clear signs that the relationship is over for him.

He doesn’t want to do what is required to make the relationship work.

7. He Says He Needs Space.

If you’ve been reading my content for a while now, you know I talk a lot about the need to “have a life of your own” outside your relationship.

You should never smother a man.

Now, let’s assume you’ve been following that advice.

You give him space from time to time to think and reflect. Or, just “me time” for him to be alone.

But then, he keeps craving for alone time.

Or keep saying, “I just want to be left alone” more than usual without him actually telling you what the issue is, then something is definitely wrong and needs to be addressed.

Sure, it’s possible he’s stressed or carrying too much a heavy burden to bear alone.

But if it lingers for too long and he isn’t willing to talk about it as your teammate, it’s probably signs he wants to end the relationship.

And for the unpalatable part, it could be signs he doesn’t love you anymore.

8. He’s Secretive

Also, among the top signs he doesn’t love you anymore is that he keeps secrets from you.

Does he often lie to you?

Does he hide secrets from you?

Has he stopped involving you in his personal life?

Maybe he just doesn’t need your opinion about stuff anymore like he used to.

If he does any of these, it’s obvious he doesn’t want to share his personal life with you anymore.

And that’s a clear signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you anymore.

Don’t be too surprise if you find out he’s cheating on you.

9. He Does Not Get Jealous Anymore.

One sign that a man loves you is when he easily gets jealous – especially when you’re with other guys.

But then, your boyfriend doesn’t seem to bother even when you try to make him jealous to rekindle the passion in your relationship…

He doesn’t just care whether or not you flirt or hang out with other guys.

That’s one brutally honest signs he doesn’t love you anymore – and doesn’t want to be with you.

10. He Makes Future Decisions Without Consulting You.

He makes major plans without letting you know first.

He got a new job but doesn’t tell you about it.

He’s even relocating or planning a vacation, yet you don’t know.

Maybe you got to find out from his friends or something…

It’s obvious he does not see the two of you together in the future. Isn’t it?

That is why he does involve you.

11. He Finds Fault In Everything You Do

This guy used to be so sweet.

But now, he criticizes you for little things and always looks for ways to find faults.

Constructive criticism is very necessary for any healthy relationship to bloom.

Granted.

But if all he does is pick offense, find faults and constantly judge you, then something is wrong.

I don’t need to tell you that there is no love when a person does not see anything good in you – or what you do.

He’s tired of you.

And that’s one subtle signs he wants to break up.

So, here are some…

Frequently Asked Questions

What Do You Do If He Doesn’t Love You Back?

Another person asked:

What to do when he doesn’t want to be with you anymore?

First off, you’ve got to realize that tons of guys out there don’t deserve your attention and love.

Yea, you may love them, but one sided relationship never works.

Some guys just want to waste your time, mess you around, and have no intention of being with you long-term.

The secret is to recognize that the pain of rejection is normal.

Unrequited love and affection hurts.

It’s natural for you to feel hurt if you love someone who doesn’t return the feeling. 

Accepting that these feelings are normal can help you process them faster.

However, you have to be willing to be open after your pain to men who are WORTH YOUR TIME, i.e., the man with good character who earns a place in your life. 

So, move on.

If A Guy Doesn’t Contact You, Does It Mean He Doesn’t Really Miss You?

Most likely…

 If your man isn’t texting, calling or staying in touch, you’re not his priority. He’s just not that into you. He doesn’t miss you…enough.

I figured out a long time ago that if people don’t make an effort for you when you make effort for them, they aren’t worth keeping around.

Simple.

How Do You Know If A Guy Is Not Interested In You Anymore?

Actions don’t lie.

No matter what he says, his actions, behaviors, and attitudes toward you will betray him.

Check is behaviors. You may want to read through this article again to discover signs he doesn’t love you anymore.

If A Guy Doesn’t Try To Talk Anymore, Does That Mean He Has Lost Interest In Me?

What is a relationship without communication?

Well, there are a lot of reasons a guy would stop talking.

Firstly, it could be that he’s having a hard time; personally or professionally. Life’s tough, you know.

He may be busy – with work and other stuff. But if he’s gone for more than a week or two, he’s probably lost interest.

Or he may be thinking he’s showing interest in somebody that’s not interested in him.

What stops you from initiating a convo with him if that’s the case?

He can’t be the only one initiating contact all the time. No one likes that. I don’t like it either.

Why Doesn’t He Talk To Me Anymore? Can I Fix Our Relationship?

Yes, you can.

But you’ve got to stop assuming stuff from your end.

It’s simple. Initiate conversation and ask him what he is feeling.

Asking will remove the confusion and give you a sense of relief because you know where he stands.

When A Man Doesn’t Chat With You Like Before, Does It Mean He’s Already Lost Feelings For You?

Honestly, texting is never a reflection of the true emotional behavior of a man (or woman.)

Few folks feel comfortable texting women. They find it boring – especially 90`s folks who aren’t used to it

If he is bored of texting you, it’s probably because he is bored of texting and not necessarily lost feelings for you.

Have you tried talking to him?

He doesn’t text you?

Fine. Go ahead and meet him up. Call him for dinner – catch up over a movie or something.

Keep your phones down for once and look into each other eyes.

What are some signs that a guy has no feelings for you?

1. He makes you feel like you’re not good enough.

2. He gets angry for no reason and that’s a huge sign he doesn’t love you

3. He doesn’t need your opinion anymore

4. He avoids you

5. He doesn’t flirt with you anymore

6. He never compromises

How Do I Know If My Boyfriend Loves Me?

Read through this article. It’s the exact opposite of what I’ve explained.

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