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7 Exciting Ways How To Get A Man To Marry You

So, you’ve been seeing and dating this guy for some time now.

You love him.

And he’s the kind of man you’d want to spend the rest of your life with.

You can’t just help but think about your future together. Maybe having children together or traveling the world.

Whatever that means to you…

But before these things happen, though, you’re really hoping he proposes to you and ties the knot.

So then, you’re wondering how to get a man to marry you.

Or perhaps, what do guys look for in a woman they want to marry?

Believe it or not, when you love someone, the general path you foresee is spending your life with them.

And that’s marriage.

But how do you go from being just his girlfriend to become the woman he wants to marry?

What will make him want to spend the rest of his life with you?

Sure, you don’t want to become who you are not or change yourself, but there are certainly tiny things you can do to create a more meaningful bond and make him want to commit – fast.

Of course, there are a lot of things he needs to do for you, too.

But if you’re looking for signs he will marry you someday – hopefully fast, there are ways to make a man want to marry you.

7 Secret Ways How To Get A Man To Marry You

1. His Values And Beliefs Must Be Compatible With Yours

How To Get A Man To Marry You

I know he’s cute.

He makes you laugh. He’s handsome and tall.

While there’s nothing wrong with any of these qualities, those aren’t what you’re really getting married to.

These qualities aren’t really what moves the needle in any marriage relationship.

Values and beliefs are.

Sounds strange, right?

In other words, you aren’t getting married to his handsome face or how well he speaks. You’re getting married to his values and beliefs about life.

Beliefs and values are what control people’s behaviors and actions.

Values are the things that matter to you—the things you place in high esteem.

For example:

Your values about how you treat others, your view about family, finance, faith, and love, etc.

If you are compatible on these things with him, it’ll be a lot easier for the two of you to be on the same page as you go through life together.

Yeah, I know what you’re probably thinking…

“Marriage can still work when two people have opposing values,” you’ll say.

Yeah, but it’ll require a lot of compromise and cooperation. And if not properly handled, those issues may be a source of conflict later.

Marriages rarely work out for couples with opposing values and beliefs.

2. Self-Love Isn’t Selfish. Love Yourself.

This sounds like a cliché, right? But trust me, it’s true.

The problem I see is that too many women spend a large part of their lives looking for love and happiness in the wrong places.

And that’s because they never truly accept and love themselves –first. They have low self-esteem.

And as a result, they have a hard time accepting themselves.

If you’re looking for a man to marry you, you must first fall in love with your imperfections.


Because if you don’t love yourself, you can’t love someone else. And once you’ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.

Your love for yourself is the only predictor of the love you can give and receive.

You can’t give what you don’t have.

To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.  And the only way to be happy with someone else is if you’re able to be happy without someone.

For example:

If you’re unhappy with how you look and not satisfied with who you are, nothing and no one else will ever be enough.

Not even a man. Nor will marriage.

The ultimate hack in life is to be the person you search for.

It’s the abundance of the love, joy, and happiness you feel and have for yourself that you can share with someone else.

Ever noticed that people who feel safe and secure in themselves are more generous with their love and affection…

While those who are insecure tend to hold back?

People are afraid of being judged. And they gravitate toward those who accept them for who they are.

When a man sees that you’re authentic and accept yourself for who you are, that’s when he knows you’ll accept him also.

He knows you have abundance of love to give by the way you love and treat yourself.

3. Start With Group Hypnosis.

This might sound a bit tricky, but it works.

Especially if you want your man to invest in a long-term relationship with you.

But what does “group hypnosis” even mean?


Make him hang out with your married friends.

When done long enough, we become like the people we hang around.

We start acting like them, wanting and desiring the same things.

This phenomenon is called “mirroring.”

All you’ve got to do to get him to propose is to start hanging around with your friends who are either married or engaged.

Spend time with them. But make sure these people are healthy couples. (Obviously, you want to steer clear of any chaotic marriage.)

And the reason is…

Most guys hold back from getting married simply because they haven’t got a lot of positive examples or good role models.

The interesting part is that most women don’t either.

But you’re different. You’ve got a strong inner drive towards a committed, long-term relationship.

Men need to be exposed to healthy marriages very early. They need to see examples of strong relationships and how they work.

If he’s terrified of commitment, this will kinda allay his fears about commitment. Because, the truth is, he wants to know if being with you will be worth it.

And this needs to be nurtured even after you both say, “I do.”

I’m not married yet, but I only hang around positive relationships. Especially couples committed to it and working on it – to make it work (not fail).

I understood very early that…

Modeling a behavior is 100 times stronger than telling someone to act differently.

The most effective way to change is to focus not on what you want to achieve but on who you want to become.

And you do that by hanging around people who are already successful in the areas you want to improve.

See it as being in a peer group where they are constantly reminding you of how cool it is to work on your marriage.

Now, think of how far that would go in making him love the idea of getting married to you.

4. Find Out Where He’s At In His Life.

There was this pretty girl I met a couple of months back.

We’ve been seeing each other for three months.

I liked her.

The more we spent time together, the more I fell for her.

The connection was deep. And the chemistry? very strong.

But there was a problem…

She wanted us to get married as fast as possible. I mean, less than six months after we met.

It was weird.

And besides, I didn’t know her too well to want to commit that fast.

I’m not scared of commitment. I just needed a little time for us to know ourselves.

So, I told her I wasn’t ready to marry in six months.

Besides, at the time, I was busy trying to build my online business from scratch. I needed to focus and give my business undivided attention.

I was open enough to tell her where I was on my journey.

I told her, “I like you – a lot. And I want to marry you. But you’ve got to give me some time. (A year)”

Guess what?

She wasn’t patient enough. She just couldn’t wait for another six months.

So, depending on your boyfriend’s career path, financial stability, family background, health, and many other factors, he will vary widely in his approach toward marriage.

You’ve got to figure out where he is in his journey and decide if you can wait or not. Especially if you’re looking for how to get a man to propose in 6 months like my friend

You have to know where he is at in life before you stake all your hopes on him.

And that brings me to this crucial point.

5. Don’t Be Desperate

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Most women have this backward.

Especially in their late 20s or 30s when they think their biological clock is ticking away…fast.

They think the more they ask a man to define the relationship, the more he’d want to commit. Or the more they pressure him, the more he’d want to propose.

Not at all.

In fact, it’s one of the signs he’ll never marry you. It goes against how men are wired to function.

Men hate being manipulated and given an ultimatum.

Is it bad to pressure boyfriend to propose?

Should you pressure a man to marry you?

It’s a bad idea.

Here’s why you should never pressure your boyfriend into marrying you.

His proposal must be unforced. He must be willing and not coerced.

It has to be his idea to want to marry you. He must be ready to take that step, and the decision must be his – and his alone.

Otherwise, it will never work out, even when you successfully manipulate him to propose.

At some level, he’s always going to resent you, and you’ll always wonder if he genuinely wanted you to begin with.

Instead of pressuring him to marry you or for an engagement ring,

Try to make it his idea by reassuring him of your love, devotion, and desire for him, and tell him you want him for your future.

Because he has to believe with every fiber of his being that chasing you, choosing you, committing to you, the marriage idea, and your entire relationship is his idea.

He has to believe with every fiber of his being that he is the one who made the first move…

…that he is the one who convinces you to be his girlfriend…

…that he is the one who wants you to be his wife…

6. Make Him Need You

Many women focus too much on labeling the relationship instead of giving value.

Here’s the truth about life:

“People ONLY want to commit to something after realizing its value in their lives.”

The key word here is VALUE.

This happens on a subconscious level.

And a relationship isn’t any different.

You’ve got to show him or demonstrate in multiple areas that you’re a person of value. Otherwise, he’ll never see any tangible reason to need you in his life.

Your offer has to be very strong…

Something irresistible

Emotionally compelling and

 A no-brainer.

To understand how to make an irresistible and compelling offer, I mean, present yourself in the best way possible to a man…

You must understand the concept of VALUE that he would feel so stupid not want to be with you or propose to you.

Again, the reason people buy anything is to get a deal.

And relationships aren’t any different.

They believe what they are getting (value) is worth more than what they are giving in exchange for it (Price.)

“No man, in his right senses, can RESIST a woman who’s beautiful and also speaks VALUE.”

Every one of us, men and women alike, wants to be with a partner who makes us feel like…

We got the better part of the deal for our partner.

In fact,

It’s ideal when both partners have such a strong appreciation and gratitude for one another that they both feel blessed to have attracted their partner.

That should be the goal.

“What do guys look for in a woman they want to marry?” You ask,

Well, you must be a catch. I mean, a woman of compelling and irresistible value.

7. Communicate Using Emotional Appeal

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Wait a minute…

Before you started reading this article, what exactly was on your mind?

Can you remember?

You were thinking of something else, weren’t you?

Come on. Be honest.

See, the same is true for everyone – including your boyfriend.

People of all ages are basically and emotionally preoccupied with their personal interests, needs, attitudes, and desires.

They are filled with different enmeshments of enjoyment, hopes, dreams, anxieties, fears, and memories.

They’d tell you they love to listen but hate to.

It’s very tempting to get mad about it. But don’t.

Instead, learn a communication technique that can control the reaction to your words and actions and make your boyfriend wants to listen to you on any subject, in any situation.


Because your ability to get him to want to listen can become your most vital asset.

That’s how to make a man fall in love with you and how to get a man to marry you fast.

Your ability to break through his mental preoccupation and barrier and enter his mind represents the greatest power you can possess.

That’s exactly what will make you connect with him deeper than any other woman can.

It’d be as if you have his remote control.

Because you can reach him on a deeper level, no one else can.

But the only way to break preoccupation in any situation is with words or actions with emotional appeal.

What is emotional appeal?

It’s the ability to communicate and make others want to listen.

You see, love is communication.

To communicate successfully, you must use emotional appeal. Without well-directed emotional appeal (love language), you have no love.

Find out what his love language(s) are and communicate it.

Use words that allay his fears. (allow him to be vulnerable with you)

Words that encourage his dreams. (be his believer)

Justify his failures (don’t judge him when he make mistakes)

Confirm his suspicions and (make him feel understood)

Help him throw rocks at his enemies (be his ride or die)

Put differently, always give him hope. Make him feel understood. Create an environment to make it easy for him to be himself around you. Be his team mate.

Frequently Asked Questions

Why Does He Get Mad When I Talk About Marriage?

First, understand that not all guys freak out by the M-word.

And yes, marriage is indeed a big deal.

While there are a lot of reasons why marriage talk freaks most guys out…

Many freak out because they see marriage as a means of losing their excitement, independence, freedom, and part of themselves.

And there’s also the issue of money.

Plus, most men never really had anyone that modeled good and healthy marriage to them. So the ones they are used to and see in society freak them out.

If you’ve dating a guy, say 5+ years and still freaked out by the idea of marriage, then I think it’s time for you to move on if marriage is what you want out of a relationship.

How Long Does It Take A Man To Know He Wants To Marry You?

Good question.

While the answer varies from individual to individual, some research has been conducted in this area.

According to a study done by PNAS (Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences), people make up their minds faster and use less information than they think.

For example:

The report shows that it usually takes around 210 days or about seven months for people who have never been married to decide if they are ready to marry someone.

Those already married said it took them about 173 days, or closer to six months, to realize they wanted to marry their significant others.

That means, if you want to know how to get a man to marry you within 12 months, it’s possible.

Based on the research, it’s obvious it doesn’t take years and years for a guy to decide he wants to marry you.

But understand that your situation may be different from the norm.

After Six Years, How Do You Get A Man To Marry You When He Says, “I Love You, But I Am Just Not Ready”?

Okay, say something along the lines of…

“Honestly, Matt (whatever his name is), the last six years with you have been one of the most amazing years of my life.

I love you so much. And I don’t want anything to come between us. Matt, I can see our future together. And I think it would be appropriate for us to take the next step and get married.

I want you to know that I’d definitely say “yes” if you asked me to marry you. And I hope you feel the same way, too.

However, Matt, I am not getting any younger. As much as I love you, I simply can’t afford to wait for you any longer to make up your mind.

 You’re an amazing person, and I believe you already know everything there’s to know about me to decide whether I am the right woman for you.

But right now, as painful as it may sound, if you cannot decide in the next 30 days (or: at the end of the summer; or: by Christmas; or: before we leave for New York), then I will have to break up with you and move on with my life…

 Because I would like to get married, have a more committed relationship, have kids, and raise a family.

You know I love you passionately, and I always will. And I hope you feel the same way and are ready to move things forward and take the next step.”

Observe how I have framed this as a statement rather than a question. Or nag. Or rant. Or criticize?

And by the way, at the end of the 30 days, if he does nothing, break up with him and move on with your life.

Don’t look back.

I know it’s hard. But your time is precious.

At What Age Should Men Get Married?

There are a lot of factors to consider here.

First off, there’s no “best” age. It all varies from individual to individual because different people have different goals and life circumstances.

Some men get married in their early 20s. Others in their late 20s. While some get married in their 30s. some even 40s…

So, it all depends upon – social, economic/financial, and personal situation.

How Can I Get My Boyfriend To Propose?

If you’ve read this article, you’ve probably learned a thing or two.

However, below are more tips:

1. Be emotionally stable

Men settle in a place where they find peace, not beauty.

You must be his peace if you want a man to marry you.

Let’s face it; life is already tough the way it is. The last thing you want is to bring your weird drama into a man’s life.

Always be his anchor and available to calm his storm.

Instead of bringing drama, create good memories.

2. Make him trust you

If you know you have trust issues, the best time to work on them is before meeting him. The second best time is now.

Forget what anyone tells you; a man will never commit long-term to a woman he doesn’t trust or doesn’t trust him.

3. Work on your character defects

Trust me on this one; he’ll never marry you if you insult him or his family.

Whatever character defects you have, address them right away.

How Can You Convince A Guy To Marry You When He’s Not Ready Yet Because Of Financial Problems?

Honestly, I think the subject of money isn’t discussed enough.

People just wave it off – as if it doesn’t matter. After all, love is all that matter.


A man’s self-esteem and self-worth is primarily tied to his ability to provide for his family and meet their daily needs.

If you want to convince a man to marry you, and you love him so much, encourage him to look for a job. Or better still, support him to build his business or side hustle.

Give him time.

Be patient with him to put his financial house in order.

Because if he doesn’t, he’s going to project his anger, frustration, and scarcity unto you

Trust me; it isn’t something you’d pray to experience.

How Important Is Money When Getting Married? If The Guy You Want To Marry Is Broke, Would You Still Go Ahead And Marry?

Money is very important. Never ignore it.

Now, there’s a big difference between broke and poverty.

Being broke is the temporary lack of money. However, poverty is a state of mind.

If the guy you want to marry is broke, that’s a temporary state. Provided he has dreams, and he’s willing to work at them daily to realize his goals.

 Yea, I’d advise you to marry him, but…

Observe his daily actions. Actions don’t lie.

Should I Marry If I Am Not Financially Ready?

Please don’t.

Because having a foundation of financial security is key to a long-lasting committed marriage.

I’m not saying you must be rich as Oprah Winfrey or your boyfriend as Elon Musk before you get married. Not at all. But you must at least a stable source of income to start with.

I Have A Great Personality, Am Wealthy, Highly Educated, And Smart And Intelligent. My Parents Are Wanting To Have Me Married. I’m Feeling Helpless.

Well, I think the answer you seek is hidden in the question itself.

I mean, you have projected yourself as a smart, beautiful, rich, highly educated…blah-blah-blah.

You have succeeded in shaping your personality attached to the materialistic world. And I believe when guys try to approach you, that’s the kind of vibe you give off “materialistic girl.”

You may have ignored many good guys just because they may not be up to your “class” or standard. Whatever that means…

But wait a second:

Where is your inner beauty and feminine qualities?

That’s what you should use to attract guys, not your achievements.

How Much Time Can A Woman Wait For The Marriage Proposal?

Honestly, you’re going to get different opinions on this. But I’d say that it depends on what you want.

Over the years, I’ve seen women who waited for years and never got married.

The truth is, a man doesn’t keep a woman he wants to wife up waiting forever. A lot of women have settled on waiting.

On the flip side though, I’ve also seen women who finally married their men after so many years of waiting.

This also depends on the man you’re seeing.

Does he have integrity?

If he promises he’s going to marry you, if he has integrity, he definitely will. But if he doesn’t, don’t count on him.

I Am Getting Very Depressed And Sad As I’m Not Getting Married. What Should I Do?

My advice for you is, to enjoy your single life. And stop comparing your life with others.

You have no idea what they’re going through.

Trust me on this one. It’s far better not to get married until you find someone who will add spice to your life and fill it with love and happiness than to marry the wrong person.

Marring the wrong person can ruin your entire life.

Don’t learn the hard way. Because the most devastating human experience after death is divorce.

Nelson Whetat is a dating coach who is fascinated by human psychology and passionate about helping single women understand men, increase their desirability and attractiveness so they can get their dream man. He’s also a marketer and direct response copywriter who enjoys crafting attention grabbing and emotional compelling content and stories to sell digital products

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