Dating A Guy Younger Than You: 4 Exciting Things To Know

Are you dating a guy younger than you?

Or perhaps, you’re starting to develop feelings for a younger guy.

And you’re wondering if it’s okay to date younger men.

Well, there’s really nothing wrong with an older woman dating a younger man.

In fact, I’ve come across lots of older women dating younger men.

Dating a younger man can be fun. But like every other relationship, it has its own challenges.

Case in point:

Erica, 28, met Dennis, 24.

They work at the same place and have been dating for a month.

He’s super sweet and cute.

They have a great vibe when they talk. And he’s very attentive too.

They have a lot of things in common.

Everything feels natural and good. And, she has been nothing but happy.

However, while they are getting along so far,

She can’t shake off the feeling of weirdness that he’s a lot younger and possibly at a different maturity level.

Besides, many of her friends comment about their age and how she’s older than him.

And it’s bothering her.

She feels she shouldn’t be dating him because he’s 24. Since men mature later than women.

She’s finding it difficult to decide whether or not to pursue things further because of the age gap.

“I feel wrong dating a man 4 years younger.”

“Is it okay to date a guy 4 years younger than you?”

She had all these thoughts rumbling in her head.

If you are dating a younger man, you’ll find this article helpful.

4 Exciting Benefits Of Dating A Guy Younger Than You

1. Regardless Of Age, A Deep Connection Can Develop

You’ve probably heard that age is nothing but a number.

Well, it’s true.

Consider Brigitte, the wife of French President Emmanuel Macron, who is 25 years older.

Or the 63-year-old Megan Mullally and 52-year-old Nick Offerman,

Who document their marriage in the beautifully titled book

‘The Greatest Love Story Ever Told.’

Then there are Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas, and so on…

What do these relationships tell you?

A strong connection is real, regardless of the age difference.

A 2017 study by the dating site EliteSingles found that 450,000 male clients between the ages of 20 and 29,

Preferred dating an older lady (with 11 years being the most desirable gap).

According to a psychologist and author of ‘Dating from the Inside Out,’ Paulette Sherman says,

“The success of any relationship depends on the individual contributions to the union.

Depending on their level of life experience, you could have a very mature 25-year-old,

Or an “immature” 50-year-old. Therefore, rather than just encouraging limiting views about age,

It is wise to look closely at each individual.“

Think about it:

There’s no correlation between age and maturity.

One of my clients dated a 39-year-old guy in her mid-20s,

Expecting he’s someone ready to commit; instead,

She met an immature guy who made crude remarks about her weight and cheated on her pretty much every time she was out of sight.

Not only that, numerous women who have been in relationships,

Demonstrate that there is no direct correlation between being older and genuinely behaving like an adult.

So, maturity doesn’t always come with age.

2. Even Young People Can Have Committed Relationships

Another common misconception is that dating young guys guarantees you’ll never have a real relationship.

It implies that you’ll be entering a relationship with lack of emotional commitment,

And being introduced at gatherings as “this is the girl I’m kind of hooking up with.”

Psychotherapist Robi Ludwig stated that:

 “Since a younger guy goes through different developmental phases,

A little bit slower than a woman.

He might not be ready to handle all of the responsibilities,

And stress that come with a committed relationship because he lacks emotional maturity and sense of responsibility.”

Again, this isn’t a problem that is peculiar to younger men.

Once more, this generalization relates age with a particular set of romantic ideals,

Nonetheless, plenty of men of various ages are either interested or not interested in a relationship.

Ludwig isn’t necessarily talking about younger men – in particular,

Rather, she’s describing a man who isn’t looking for a committed relationship,

A type of man who can be any age.

From my years of experience, I’ve realized that age and interest in a meaningful relationship don’t appear to be related.

Patricia was dating a man 5 years younger.

He was more open and interested in pursuing something serious with her than anyone she’d ever dated,

Despite being at an age when he was supposed to be more interested in “playing the field.”

I’ve seen women dating a man 8 years younger.

Some dating a man 14 years younger and so on

3. You Hardly Share Same Interests With People Of Your Age

Rosemary had a few casual encounters with men five or six years younger.

And some within her age gap.

So, it wasn’t her first trip into the younger guy pool.

She recently ended a relationship with an older guy who was preoccupied with hitting “acceptable life milestones”

Such as marriage, children, and secure employment,

And the experience made her realize that she wasn’t on the same page about those things with him.

At the moment she feels more attracted to a younger guy before it gives her the opportunity to explore life,

Which is something she always wanted to do.

Sometimes our experiences or personality traits cause us to have more in common with people who are younger (or older) than us.

It would be insane to rule out a love relationship with someone just because they are not your exact age.

4. A Guy’s Youth Does Not Last Forever

It’s important you realize that older men were once younger men and that younger men will soon become older men.

Our personalities don’t change much with time, but our level of maturity does.

For example, although having the same age difference,

Rosemary’s former “scandalous young” partner is now viewed as fairly age-appropriate for her.

Sure, if you’re dating a younger man, you might get to help them for a while with some basic life administration tasks.

Still, it won’t be a pure “teacher-student” relationship because men figure things out on their own quickly.

That guy who is currently 21 and unsure of how to operate the washing machine or negotiate a salary won’t always be in that situation.

According to Stevie Nicks, a well-known relationship therapist:

“We become bolder and more confident with time. Even children get older, and you’re getting older, too.”

Life is too short to put off dating a younger man just because society has psyched you out about it.

There are a lot of advantages and disadvantages of dating a younger man.

But now that you know the reasons why you should date younger men,

Let’s look at some disadvantages of dating a younger man.

Dating A Guy Younger Than You: 3 Disadvantages Of Dating A Younger Man

5. You Might Face Resistance From Family And Friends

Brace yourself for judgment.

Remember the story I shared at the beginning of this article?

Yea! Erica and Dennis.

Many of her friends made horrible comments about their age and how she was older than him.

You’re going to face such resistance.

Your friends and relatives may react negatively to you.

Although you and your younger man may be completely in love,

Others might not be as understanding and accepting.

You’ll be better equipped to handle it and brush it aside when it occurs if you are aware beforehand that this negative reaction could occur.

Your connection will be stronger if you can avoid internalizing any potential judgments or disapproving looks from others.

6. The Kids’ Talk Is Complicated.

Depending on your age, you may have reached the end of your fertile years,

But he hasn’t even thought about starting a family.

Or perhaps he is eager to become a father while you are approaching menopause.

I advise you have this chat right away if things have developed past the fling stage.

It would help if you communicated your desires around family when things get serious.

7. Some Younger Males Could Feel Intimidated By You

Less self-assured men just starting to carve out their paths won’t always be as fascinated by your past.

When he goes on dates with you for business meetings or a blended family event,

Where you have to spend time with your ex-husband, this might create snags in the relationship.

I always stress the need for communication and the importance of expressing jealousy and insecurity as soon as they surface.

Recognizing that you and your boyfriend don’t have to have equal levels of professional achievement,

Is beneficial for this kind of relationship.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is It Okay To Date Younger Men?

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with dating a younger man.

As long as you love each other and are committed to making it work.

I Am Deeply In Love With A Guy That Is 2 Years Younger Than Me. What Does That Say About Me?

It reveals one thing about you: You’re madly in love with a man two years younger than you.

That’s all there is to it.

You’re a human being who desires to love and be loved just like everyone else

Love is an inherent desire.

So, dear lady, you don’t have to feel bad about it.

Love happens between people, not between dates of birth.

What Is It Like To Date Someone Much Younger Than Yourself? How Is It Different From Dating A Person Your Same Age?

Age itself is never the problem.

I’ve seen women in relationships with younger men.

Far more significant factors include mutual respect, integrity, shared interest, emotional maturity, discipline,

And intelligence on both sides of the relationship.

Age is nothing but a number.

The age might appear to be a concern, of course,

But if f there’s willingness to learn and grow then there shouldn’t be a problem

What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Dating A Guy Who Is Some Years Older Than You?

Love has no age restrictions.

Therefore you should date if you love them or they care about you deeply.

Please look at the examples I cited above.

The wife of French President Emmanuel Macron,

25 years older, and the 63-year-old Megan Mullally and 52-year-old Nick Offerman.  

They both married partners who were younger than them.

So, don’t worry; if someone likes you,

Then you should go on dates and advance your relationship.

Advantages Of Dating Someone Younger Than You

1. A strong connection is possible regardless of the age difference.

2. You can regain your feeling of adventure by dating a younger man.

3. You’ll probably be looked up to for the incredible things you’ve done.

4. They’ll also admire your confidence, which you’ve developed through time. Etc.

Disadvantages Of Dating A Younger Man

1. They may have different Priorities.

2. Younger men might lack experience.

3. There might be a slight difference in commitment.

4. They might not be emotionally mature to handle pressure and responsibilities etc.